April 30th... What a Mess!

As I sit here among a mess, I'm wondering how did it get this bad. We have been in a construction zone since DECEMBER when our basemet bathroom addition started. Bad contractors, bad luck, and too much stuff is why it is this messy. That in addition to a husband who doesn't know how to clean up after himself, and has no organization skills.
I think if I sent him and the girls away for a week and got this whole house organized, like when one of those shows comes to your house like Clean Sweep, my house would be trashed again in one month.
It seems that number 2 daughter has created a bit more responsibility than I remember number 1 daughter being at this age, and I just can't seem to find the time to do all that needs to be done.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a bit depressed, and maybe that's why I'm having such a hard time motivating. I also so feel overwhelmed, and I think that stops me before I even get started. And lastly, I think I'm being a bit passive agressive towards my husband because deep inside I blame him for everything that's wrong, or at least I blame him for not being more on the ball and noticing and remembering things that he can contribute to.
When we were married, he wasn't as overwhelmed, didn't have his own business, and seemed more connected to me... 8 years later, 2 kids later, 1 self-employed business later, and 1 bathroom addition later, he just isn't able to focus on anything for more than a few seconds, that is anything except business, personal health, food, personal belongings, and bathroom additon and anything that he can get obsessive compulsive about! WHat a rant! I guess it just feels good to complain and get it all out. Perhaps I won't be such a bitch to him when he returns at some unacceptable hour this evening only to have something very pressing that will take up even more of our precious family time!